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Braves
04-14-03, 05:21 PM
I thought I would share this with you guys. It's pretty good!



I have received permission to post this from a great Mom...I hope it helps some of you:



Hope you don’t mind if I share our experiences of this past year, as I’m convinced they happened to us for this purpose. It’s a little long, but here goes...
Last year at this time we were impatiently awaiting the start of our college son’s junior year… draft year. On opening day scouts were everywhere, but our guy struggled at the plate … and continued to struggle week after week. Nothing he did seemed to help. He spent nights after practice in the cages until his hands bled. He read book after book, sought out advice from everyone, changed his stance, his bat, even dropped the switch hitting that he and his coach had worked so hard on … but nothing worked. He missed his coach, who had died the previous summer, but he pressed on hoping to honor him. The low point came in a game at the end of March when he went 0-5 with 4 K’s …swinging …in front of a pro scouting director that had flown in to see him. I watched as he left the field in tears … through my tears… wondering why all of this was happening.

We drove over to his apt. parking lot to wait for him, like we always did, but he didn’t show. After 2 hours his truck finally pulled in and out he emerged … with a big smile on his face!
“I suck!” he laughed. I didn’t know what to say. He continued, “I went to a park, had a little talk with the Man Upstairs, and now realize that I can’t do this by myself. No matter how hard I try, I can’t. From now on I’m just going to do my best and turn the rest over to Him. Let’s go get a big steak!”

The next weekend series was remarkable. He went 10 for 12 with 2 HR’s… and the success continued, game after game, week after week, for the rest of the season. Just that quickly his slump turned around and he batted over .500 for the remainder of the season. The right MLB team saw something they liked and drafted him in the 3rd round last June. Whenever anyone asks him what happened … what changed things around … he tells them his story and how he learned who’s really in control.

Dear Parents … I know how you are feeling if you have a son approaching an important season. I know the sharp little pain that grabs at your stomach whenever you think about what’s at stake. But I hope that whenever the pressure rises you’ll remember, “To everything there is a season … a time for every purpose under heaven.” Your son can learn so many wonderful life lessons through the ups and downs of his baseball journey and all of these experiences have the potential of molding him into a better player and man.

My prayer for every parent that struggles with fears and doubts, as we still do, is that you’ll be able to find a peace that surpasses all understanding in the promise of God’s love for your son. Have faith and always remember … he’s in good hands.

Original
04-14-03, 05:25 PM
WOW! What a wonderful....wonderful story to share! Thanks!
Very uplifting AND......right!

Good for him and thanks to the mom who shared!

Braves
04-14-03, 05:56 PM
Well, Original, sometimes a young player puts so much pressure on himself that he never gives himself a chance to succeed...always worrying about things he can not control

highntight
04-14-03, 06:30 PM
After a very difficult past year, I have found this method of dealing with pressure to be a very important message not only for baseball but for life. What a wonderful conclusion for this family! Thanks for the story.

MsFishwrapper
04-16-03, 03:24 PM
I have been reading and pondering your insightful comments for some time now and felt I had to finally post. What a great post as all of our guys are under so much pressure right now. Thanks for sharing on the board and in the stands (even green ones)...you are an inspiration to us all :)

Braves
04-17-03, 03:55 PM
Thanks Mom---I'll be home for dinner around 8:00.

Seriously, that was kind of you to say Fishwrapper. I knew exactly how that Mom felt and thought it would be a good idea to share her story.....

...but please keep in mind MsFishwrapper...I am infiltrating those Green stands in hope that I will turn them Red!!:D

Oh and someone as intelligent and acquired good taste as yourself is a welcome addition to the Board....so please post often

rcbbfan
04-17-03, 06:50 PM
I was recently at a ball game when I over heard this reply from a well known HS pitcher in the Charlotte area when he was asked about the added pressure of all the scouts at a game. " This is a baseball game, there's no pressure here. There are guys my age fighting for their country in Iraq, that's pressure."

This from a 17-18 year old. Impressive, to say the least.:applause:

Original
04-17-03, 08:27 PM
posted by rcbbfan
"I was recently at a ball game when I over heard this reply from a well known HS pitcher in the Charlotte area when he was asked about the added pressure of all the scouts at a game. " This is a baseball game, there's no pressure here. There are guys my age fighting for their country in Iraq, that's pressure."

This from a 17-18 year old. Impressive, to say the least."

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Indeed! That is a great perspective and so true.

FittyCent
04-18-03, 12:18 AM
For what it's worth, I enjoyed the story Braves.

Braves
10-02-07, 02:42 PM
This was a great story that i wanted to share again

One Putt
10-02-07, 03:27 PM
I have received permission to post this from a great Mom...I hope it helps some of you:



Hope you don’t mind if I share our experiences of this past year, as I’m convinced they happened to us for this purpose. It’s a little long, but here goes...
Last year at this time we were impatiently awaiting the start of our college son’s junior year… draft year. On opening day scouts were everywhere, but our guy struggled at the plate … and continued to struggle week after week. Nothing he did seemed to help. He spent nights after practice in the cages until his hands bled. He read book after book, sought out advice from everyone, changed his stance, his bat, even dropped the switch hitting that he and his coach had worked so hard on … but nothing worked. He missed his coach, who had died the previous summer, but he pressed on hoping to honor him. The low point came in a game at the end of March when he went 0-5 with 4 K’s …swinging …in front of a pro scouting director that had flown in to see him. I watched as he left the field in tears … through my tears… wondering why all of this was happening.

We drove over to his apt. parking lot to wait for him, like we always did, but he didn’t show. After 2 hours his truck finally pulled in and out he emerged … with a big smile on his face!
“I suck!” he laughed. I didn’t know what to say. He continued, “I went to a park, had a little talk with the Man Upstairs, and now realize that I can’t do this by myself. No matter how hard I try, I can’t. From now on I’m just going to do my best and turn the rest over to Him. Let’s go get a big steak!”

The next weekend series was remarkable. He went 10 for 12 with 2 HR’s… and the success continued, game after game, week after week, for the rest of the season. Just that quickly his slump turned around and he batted over .500 for the remainder of the season. The right MLB team saw something they liked and drafted him in the 3rd round last June. Whenever anyone asks him what happened … what changed things around … he tells them his story and how he learned who’s really in control.

Dear Parents … I know how you are feeling if you have a son approaching an important season. I know the sharp little pain that grabs at your stomach whenever you think about what’s at stake. But I hope that whenever the pressure rises you’ll remember, “To everything there is a season … a time for every purpose under heaven.” Your son can learn so many wonderful life lessons through the ups and downs of his baseball journey and all of these experiences have the potential of molding him into a better player and man.

My prayer for every parent that struggles with fears and doubts, as we still do, is that you’ll be able to find a peace that surpasses all understanding in the promise of God’s love for your son. Have faith and always remember … he’s in good hands.

Amen brother. Well said. Thanks for sharing.

Stretchlon
10-02-07, 03:31 PM
another great thing about TBR....we can all grow if we take the advice of others that have been there

BigRedMachine
10-02-07, 04:39 PM
Thanks for reposting that message Braves. It is very inspirational. I for one, needed that reminder. A few years ago we had a scare that made me thankful my son could even play baseball. Since then I have always reminded myself that there are so many more important things in life (I know, to some there is nothing else :22_yikes:) and not let myself or my son get caught up in the stress and drama--and the baseball life does resemble a soap opera sometimes. However, with the pressure his high school coach has been applying lately, I have allowed myself to forget that philosophy.
Thanks for the reality check.
Thanks to Mom for sharing such a great story. :hurray: You obviously did a great job raising your son.

sportsmom
10-02-07, 05:47 PM
Since I am new to this site and didn't see the original post, I am so thankful that you bought it back to our attention.
What an awesome story and an awesome reminder!

We have tried to teach our son that being a great man is so much more important than being a great baseball player. Sounds like this young man is both and his parents taught him well. As of now, our son is on the right track in both ways, but if one has to give...I hope it's baseball! I see lots of great athletes, but great men involved in athletics unfortunately are becoming rarer by the day. As parents, if we can keep things in perspective, maybe it will make it easier for our young men to do the same.

Thanks to mom for sharing it!

catamount36
10-02-07, 07:16 PM
great story,
something that ALL of us should think about. coaches, parents and players. this is a game that is suppose to be FUN. i think we all forget that sometimes.:idea3::beatnik2:

NC Baseball Fan
10-03-07, 12:26 PM
awesome story. I love to see young people grow in the knowledge of our Lord.

A2662G
10-03-07, 04:31 PM
Now that I have dried my eyes and blown my nose--I feel I can respond. My son, a HS senior, spent his summer "showing off his skills" for the colleges/scouts.
Unfortunately, his skills seemed nonexistent. Midway through the summer, he had a renewal of his faith and then his faith was tested and not just on the baseball field. Our family experienced two deaths and he seemed to carry a heavy heart.
We, as a family, continued to put our faith in what is eternal.
My son continues to work every day on his hitting...a ball player once said something like this: Work hard every day and be prepared and when the time is right--you will be ready.
Only the Lord knows the path that is ahead for our son and we all hope it is baseball, but if it is not, I will be forever grateful for the man he is becoming and the way he has handled his disappointments and especially, for who he has turned to for guidance.

dpa3401
10-04-07, 12:05 PM
What a great story. This is why I visit TBR. Life's experiences are so important, the rest really is only a game.

yankees
10-04-07, 01:20 PM
A great post. Amen