check here for your question -- one for everyone

[LarryD]

here's how it works...

i'll ask someone a question. they answer. the next person who wants me to ask them a question, just needs to post and say, "me next" or somesuch. ask and you shall receive.

first question goes out to grid:

"what's the latest on your invention/patent?"

[Farmer]

oohh - axe me....

[LarryD]

ok. after grid answers. that's the way it will work. nobody can get asked their question until the person in front of them answers.

[hasbeens99]

Larry, ask me after Farmer answers his, okay? :D

[LarryD]

ok. i've been having all these questions saved up. i've got one for everyone, personally chosen. i've been meaning to do this for a while. maybe i should just start asking them and let folks skim through and answer at their leisure.

[lex]

last i read, grid was gonna make a strap on for his cats.

me next after hasbeens, lar, please. :D

[chipshot]

I bet you dont have a question for me, nobody cares about me. :(

[mailman]

ax me next after the others. :)

[Nytdreamer]

ok, I'll take a question.

[LarryD]

Originally posted by chipshot
I bet you dont have a question for me, nobody cares about me. :(

i absolutely do.

[lex]

where the hey is grid?

[Fred]

Hell, my life is an open book. I tell ya if ya wanna know or not. Knock yourself out.

[some bitch]

me me...do me :D i wanna play.............:rolleyes:

[BearBryant]

cant wait to see my question

[mailman]

Originally posted by lex
where the hey is grid?


That's the bad thing grid usually doesn't get on the board much at night. :(

[Fred]

Ah come on Larry- what are ya waiting on ... Christmas? Hit us with the questions. Grid's probably out humping some old Jewish woman's leg.

[lex]

welp, there is a fun stopage here. :(

24 is on tonight. just a public service. :D

[some bitch]

why don't we all just ask someone else a question while waiting for grid to answer.

[sadic1]

This is a great exercise. Everyone should start a thread like this. People like to be asked about themselves and everyone would learn a little something. My question better not be if I lie about my sex life, though. The answer is "no". I would be OK with fielding any more specific questions about it, though I think you came come up with something more original.

[Miss tery]

Somebody start a thread telling Grid to answer the damn question. He probably does not even know it is there.

Yes, I will play.

[Couz]

Well this went nowhere fast.

[PhotoGuy]

This sounds cool, give it time.... Where's Grid?:confused:

[Y2Buddy]

You want answers? Ask me :D

[Y2Buddy]

Originally posted by PhotoGuy
Where's Grid?:confused:

Who are you asking?

[mathmajors]

Originally posted by lex
welp, there is a fun stopage here. :(

24 is on tonight. just a public service. :D

Daph rite!

[Imonlyhuman]

I wanna play :) I can bet Larry will ask me something about animals lol.

[Coops Greatest Fan]

I'm open for a question.......

[Inamorata]

I'm scared of what Larry would ask me!! :worried:


If ya'll do 'play' this game I'm in.

[Honeygirl]

I hope we get to ask you one back Larry. :) This sounds like a cool idea and I'm in! Yea, yea - when Grid gets back...come on Grid - you're holding up the works matey! :D

[Fred]

Originally posted by Honeygirl
I hope we get to ask you one back Larry. :) This sounds like a cool idea and I'm in! Yea, yea - when Grid gets back...come on Grid - you're holding up the works matey! :D
Well let's just be glad that it ain't Grid doin' the question askin'!

[LarryD]

questions coming tonight when i get home.

[Honeygirl]

Originally posted by Fred

Well let's just be glad that it ain't Grid doin' the question askin'! Aint that the truth! :D

[RSgal]

I wanna play too please! :D

[some bitch]

hummm i guess you're not home yet :D

[Inamorata]

He needs to get his little tail moving and hurry up. I need something to distract me from all this work. ;)

[LarryD]

you just don't seem the type to be interrogating bad guys and doing all sorts of covert stuff. how in the world did you ever get involved in army intelligence?

[BudMan]

it appears everyone has signed in but grid.

[LarryD]

you sure seem to know an awful lot about an awful lot. you've at least had a wide range of experiences and an remember a ton of details about your past. what, in that past, made you such an diligent and inquisitive student of yur faith?

[LarryD]

you like fotball, beer, all kinds of music and the internet. for a mom, you're pretty darn laid back. your feathers never seem to get ruffled. what's the maddest you've ever been and why do you so rarely show that side?

[LarryD]

going to college in boone must not have helped your alcoholism. why do you think you drink so much?

[LarryD]

how many orgies have you organized? how many elephants have you bred? how many virgins have you converted?

better yet -- just tell me how in the hell amory enterprises got started.

[Nytdreamer]

Originally posted by LarryD
how many orgies have you organized? how many elephants have you bred? how many virgins have you converted?

better yet -- just tell me how in the hell amory enterprises got started.

:roflmao:

[twentybelow0]

better yet -- just tell me how in the hell amory enterprises got started.

I know! I know!:D

[LarryD]

you're a young one. where are you and your girlfriend going to wind up when you escape arkansas?

[LarryD]

that's all for tonight. i'll go for round 2 tomorrow. no answering anyone else's questions. :D

[Nytdreamer]

Originally posted by LarryD
you're a young one. where are you and your girlfriend going to wind up when you escape arkansas?

Yup, I'm young. Hard to say where "gonna" end up is, I'd like to end up in a secluded cabin close to a lake where I can write in peace. Unlikely though. I will prolly end up a nameless cronie in the corporate world with her on my coat-tail, could be still in AR or anywhere. Lots of big companies are here.

[gladhatter]

Originally posted by some bitch
me me...do me :D i wanna play.............:rolleyes:

I like the way she eagerly wants to be done!:D

[LLG]

;) ask me something too Larry

[mathmajors]

Ask me the questions, Bridgekeeper. I am not afraid.

http://www.ifilm.com/images/editorial/010604/uc_python2_150x230.jpg

[needawindow]

I'll answer one larry, but don't make it no trick question.

[Farmer]

FARMER
you just don't seem the type to be interrogating bad guys and doing all sorts of covert stuff. how in the world did you ever get involved in army intelligence?

You know I've been asked this a million times. I guess when folks meet me, I do come across as somewhat shy and introverted (both true - esp when I was younger).

Upon joining the Army, I knew I was going to get into the "language field" I had taken four years of French in school and was pretty good at it and had a knack for picking that up.

They say you're either good in languages or good at math - and I SUCK at math.

Anyways - I took all these aptitude tests and had the Charlotte Army office all in an uproar over my "outstanding, never seen a score that high in this office before" test results.

In the Army linguist arena, there are several jobs that you can choose from if you make the grade. You would use your foreign language skills in these jobs in different ways. Some of the jobs include listening to voice communications, intercepting intelligence information that and reporting. The idea of sitting with a headset on and just listening didn't really appeal to me - nor did some of the other jobs. I decided that I would really like to get into something a little more interactive - and so I went the "interrogation" route.

If you had known me then - you might have wondered what I was thinking - but man - that was the best move of my life to date. I was painfully shy and scared of people back in school - only saying or doing what I needed to in order to get by. So - I basically just threw myself into the brink and learned over time that getting by that way was not gonna get me anywhere.

I not only shed that shy thing, I actually excelled at what I did - I learned that you can get along fine in the service by keeping your mouth shut and blending in - but you get along MUCH better if you speak up and outperform your peers.

As time went on, I somewhere along the way lost that fear of speaking to people. I liked meeting new types of people and asking them questions or just conducting interviews. I have learned all sorts of really cool stuff that I can't tell you about - but its still cool nonetheless.

I was still basically a kid then so I often was not taken seriously enough or conversely was REALLY taken seriously because I looked 17 and spoke three languages and was working as a known intelligence "official" in foreign countries, conducting interviews and hob-nobing with known VIPs.

Had you suggested to me when I was 16 or so that I would upon HS graduation join the military and become an Army interrogator and then move on to become a Strategic Intelligence Debriefer, learn to speak a few foreign languages and travel the world - I would've never believed you.

I still maintain the shy guy image and I think thats mostly now 'cause I am still learning to interact with civilians who I still feel I have nothing in common with. All of my "social integration" that has occured "post-military" has been fairly limited and its still very odd not being around people you automatically have something in common with (Army).

I guess I miss THAT most of all. :(

-farmer :D

[gridfaniker]

Originally posted by LarryD
here's how it works...

i'll ask someone a question. they answer. the next person who wants me to ask them a question, just needs to post and say, "me next" or somesuch. ask and you shall receive.

first question goes out to grid:

"what's the latest on your invention/patent?"

The design is complete. I just have to build a prototype. That's no small task since it has to be made from molded plastic and I've never done squat with molded plastic.

[chipshot]

Originally posted by LarryD
going to college in boone must not have helped your alcoholism. why do you think you drink so much?

Boredom and my peers. Plus I dont think growing up in Winston-Salem helped much. You see, Winston and Boone are pretty boring places. Theres just not much going on there. Moving from Charlotte to Charleston didnt help either. Theres way too much opportunity here. When Im buisy as hell at work like I have been recently I dont get out much.

[mathmajors]

Originally posted by Farmer
They say you're either good in lanaguages or good at math - and I SUCK at math.


I'm good at English AND math.

[lex]

not true, farmer. i know someone who is good at both! oops, math is a good example.

i will answer later when i get home or during my lunch break, larry.

it's a gorgeous wednesday here in denver, y'all! :p

[gutter]

ax me sumtin Larry.:)

[APPLEJACK]

I'm down with it Larry.

[Ignatowski]

Ask away Larry. I'm curious what question yuo've come up for me.

[barracuda]

I take one for the team.

[imking4aday]

so where these questions at?

...oh nevermind, i finally read the whole thread...and learned alot about farmer

oh, and math...nice avatar dude, funny shit

[articulatekitten]

Oooohhhh, this could get very interesting . . . if it doesn't stall & crash :sleep:

By all means, I wanna play :D

[SilverSurfer]

I'm ready for my question. But I'm skeered.

[lex]

ok. here is my response, lar:

just cuz i am a mom does not mean i am the mom you think i am. y'all dont know me. well, most of you dont. i am not laid back at all. i am big on time management and organization. i work long hours and i know my priorities. family. i do like to share some of myself on this board. what you see, is not all me.

i do like football, and my occasional beer. and i do love my music and my art, but that is not all me. i am a lot more fun than that! i simply like to keep private things private, so i talk about things that are safe. i am proud of my family and i do love them, but they are private.

my feathers have been ruffled here. more than once, too. i dont linger on those ugly things cuz they are not worth my time. i cry easy and laugh not nearly enough as i want to. tbr makes me laugh.

the maddest i have ever been? now that is private. but i can share this: i got so mad once a long time ago...many moons ago...when this ho was at this place with my stud! my viking stud was at this place talking to this ho!!! she was cute too. well, she was, but not after i took her hair off her scalp. (KIDDING) seeing him with that ho was like...well, the feeling was like...hmmmm....

"seeing fran tarkenton in a giants uniform at the metrodome!" that is a quote from a good buddy of mine. :mad:

the angry little asian girl is only a tag. magnus gave me that. mostly, i am just one little happy viking girl. i know my team suck. :p

almost forgot your last question. i rarely show that side because i dislike it a lot.

[mailman]

Originally posted by LarryD
how many orgies have you organized? how many elephants have you bred? how many virgins have you converted?

better yet -- just tell me how in the hell amory enterprises got started.

Orgies organized.... 1
Elephants bred..... 0
Vrigins converted.... 1


Amory Enterprises is my dad's fault. He made a business card a looooong time ago with his official title with the Norfolk Naval Shipyard with most of the things that are on the website. Each time he was promoted he would make a new card and have some made to pass out as a joke(conversation piece). About, Couz or twenty can help me out here, 10 yrs ago we saw them and wanted our own thus beginning Amory Enterprises (http://www.amoryusa.com). Dad printed about 100 cards each with different titles for each of us. A couple of years ago he wanted a website for it and my dad and Couz got it up and running.

If you click Diversified Services on the site it covers what each of has "expertise" in.
His grand idea is to one day retire (he could so whenever he wanted) and actually become a consultant(which he is very qualified) and then change the site to cover what he really does.

If there any ommissions or errors twenty and Couz can fill them in.

[flyfisher]

Originally posted by LarryD
ok. i've been having all these questions saved up. i've got one for everyone, personally chosen. i've been meaning to do this for a while. maybe i should just start asking them and let folks skim through and answer at their leisure.

:xyzwave: :xyzthumbs

[vpkozel]

I'm in, ask away

[NormanNiner]

I'm in if for no other reason than to satisfy my curiosity about what in the world Larry would ask me. :D

[mathmajors]

Originally posted by lex
i am a lot more fun than that!

Riiiiiiight, lexie.:rolleyes:

[lex]

that is sure looking like a major dare, mathmajors!

i am way over your league, bub! :p

you be folding like a napkin! ;)

[mathmajors]

Originally posted by imking4aday
oh, and math...nice avatar dude, funny shit

:D

'You be folding like a napkin'? What the hell kinda trash talk is that?

[lex]

THE MARTHA STEWART KIND

[LarryD]

good answers so far. thanks. more coming soon.

[reb]

:reb: ... what

[dig-it]

OK, whats your question Clark Kent?

[twentybelow0]

About, Couz or twenty can help me out here, 10 yrs ago we saw them and wanted our own

In the late 80's I had dreams of opening my own pizza place. Dad explained that I should start a Corporation first in case the business went belly up. We kicked around some names and behold Amory Enterprises. I forgot all about it till he popped up with business cards years later.

[wossa]

the answer to my question is maybe

[jazzredcat]

Hey Larry,
Ask me anything; except my porn name. :D

[TW1GGY]

i'm in too larry!! Ask the master of darkness anything....

[Coops Greatest Fan]

Where are our questions at???

[LarryD]

we do know an awful lot about you. your life is a mostly open book and i admire that about you. being gay, though, you probably have had to keep many things to yourself. when you came out, who was the most difficult person to tell and was it as bad as you had feared?

[LarryD]

like midgets and albinos, red heads always attract attention. some buckle under the pressure and introvert. others, like you, try to live up to the "fiery red-head" presumption. you didn't do drugs and locked on to one guy early on, so what kind of trouble did you get into as a kid?

[LarryD]

*** NEW QUESTION COMING ***

[LarryD]

though you like to play the role of suburbanite, you've got an interesting background. what kind of person were you when you shacked up with that gal in florida?

[LarryD]

you value close relationships and interaction, but you're very secretive and protective of yourself. you weren't always this way. what was your life-altering event?

[LarryD]

you're a big football guy. when did you last cry in front of someone? by yourself?

[LarryD]

if you were an animal, what kind of animal would you be and why?

[LarryD]

what is so impoortant to you that without it life would not be worth living? (and you can't answer watching jarrod cooper or k-state football. :) )

[LarryD]

there's eight more. i'm anxiously awaiting the responses.

[sadic1]

Originally posted by LarryD
though you like to play the role of suburbanite, you've got an interesting background. what kind of person were you when you shacked up with that gal in florida?

First, I'd like to say that you, Larry, have asked everyone kickass questions that encourage people to talk about themselves. Thanks and kudos to you.

I was in a pretty chaotic state in '91. I left Rutgers with only a girlfriend (who also left Rutgers) and a crappy GPA, convinced that college had nothing to do with my destiny at that time. I also really wanted to leave where I was from. Brooklyn and the NY area, and more importantly my mindset there, was killing me, and I was numbing my confusion at this with ample pharmacology (though no one thing to particular excess). I had come into enough money to take a little time to get my head together. I had played in garage bands, done some amateur recording, and hung around people in the local music scene, so I considered going to Full Sail school in the Orlando area for sound engineering/recording. I loaded the Harley into the '78 F-250, pulled out of Brooklyn, picked up my girlfriend in Western PA, drove to Florida, got an apartment, and for 2 months partied, talked to, and got to know people who went to and taught at the school, and decided it wasn't for me. I loved Florida. We had an apartment in Winter Park with a pool, it was beautiful all the time, and we rode the bike to Daytona. But it seemed like nobody from the school was working, and I had a hard time seeing spending that much money I didn't have to go there, and mine was soon to run out. I chalked it up as a long vacation and a last hurrah with my girlfriend, who I loved way too much to stay with anymore. I drove her home and went home to cocoon long enough to realize the only true sense of love and joy I experienced was with the girl, so I sold my ass to the Air Force and married her. It became immediately apparent that I spent a number of years searching for my path, when she was with me most of that time. This is how I know I am not an artist.

[SilverSurfer]

Originally posted by LarryD
there's eight more. i'm anxiously awaiting the responses.

Where's my question? :(

[The Brain]

aight I'm in... and I haven't been around near as much lately... so I'm mainly curious if Larry could come up with a better question than "What's your favorite color?"

[BearBryant]

Originally posted by LarryD
you were in the corps. how the heck did you wind up there and why didn't you make a career out of it?


huh? You have me confused with someone else.

[Fred]

Originally posted by LarryD
we do know an awful lot about you. your life is a mostly open book and i admire that about you. being gay, though, you probably have had to keep many things to yourself. when you came out, who was the most difficult person to tell and was it as bad as you had feared?
My dad; and no- it was not bad at all. My mother, brother and sister in law already knew. I don't think any of them were thrilled about it, but they made it known that it didn't matter. I had decided to never tell my dad unless he asked me. Growing up, he could put the fear of God in us by just snapping his fingers! In 95, my partner and I lived across town from my parents. My mother died unexpectedly at Myrtle Beach when my parents were there on vacation. My brother, sister in law, my partner and I went to the beach that night to be with my dad. My partner and sister in law took a long walk on the beach leaving me, my brother and dad alone to talk. I apologized for bringing my partner with me and explained that he wouldn't let me drive alone. My father said that he was just as much a part of the family as my sister in law was and had every right to be there. With one sentence, he wiped away all my fears. The level of respect I felt toward my dad was raised that night to a height that few men (or fathers) ever achieve.

[HighPoint49er]

Originally posted by Fred
I apologized for bringing my partner with me and explained that he wouldn't let me drive alone. My father said that he was just as much a part of the family as my sister in law was and had every right to be there. With one sentence, he wiped away all my fears. The level of respect I felt toward my dad was raised that night to a height that few men (or fathers) ever achieve.
Wow, that's something heavy at that moment in both your lives.

[imking4aday]

Originally posted by LarryD
there's eight more. i'm anxiously awaiting the responses.

only eight more....i thought you had a question for everyone

[hasbeens99]

Originally posted by LarryD
you sure seem to know an awful lot about an awful lot. you've at least had a wide range of experiences and an remember a ton of details about your past. what, in that past, made you such an diligent and inquisitive student of your faith?

First, thanks Larry, for what is sure to be (and probably already is) a Hall of Fame thread. :xyzthumbs

Second, I apologize for my late response. Work has been very busy this week, and it's cutting into my TBR time. :mad:

Third, a warning: I'm going to try to stick to the basics, but this is going to be long. On to your question then...

What prompted my search for God was a long period of emotional pain, capped off with intense fear. Everyone I have ever loved has either rejected me or been taken away from me, at least in some way. My mother and her family are alcoholics who are full of hate and spite. It courses through their veins like venom. When I was about 10 years old, the cobras started spitting. By the time I was 13, my only reason to live was to defend my little sister from the attacks. And to be honest, it was a thin reason. I didn't have too much in the way of friends at the time, and being overweight with a bad haircut, glasses and braces, I was rejected by girls, too. I contemplated suicide often.

When I moved back to California, my life got better. I found three people who loved me unconditionally in my dad and grandparents. Still didn't have any interest from girls, but at least I had family.

My grandfather passed away from lung cancer. In 1989, I blew my ACL and MCL and didn't get to finish my only year of high school football. I never got any playing time, and my dad had gone to every game just to watch me play. In 1991, I cared for my grandmother as she died from brain cancer. I got married in 1994 to Mrs. Hasbeens, but in 1995 my dad had a stroke that changed him forever. He isn't, nor will he ever be the same man I knew, loved, and idolized in my teen years and early 20's.

In 1996, my wife -- the last person in my life who loved me unconditionally and made me happy nearly died from Lupus. It was her illness that was the fear I mentioned earlier. It was then that I realized I was helpless -- that I wasn't in control. That experience broke me. And out of sheer desperation I reached out for God.

...and He was there.

That was a turning point in my life. That's how I first began to seek Him out. It began my motivation to learn about Him. But like many at TBR, I didn't trust churches. To me, churches were full of hypocrites and socialites, and run by people who were only interested in money and power. Certainly there wasn't any lives being changed. I didn't see God showing up anywhere.

It took a while, but I finally found a church where the people were real, money was not an issue, and lives were being changed radically. As I continued to learn about God and look for Him in my own life, as well as the lives of other people, I began to see His work more and more. And in not just learning about God, but following and trusting Him, I learned to recognize and release my own hate I'd been carrying for my mom's half of the family for years. I learned how to be happy -- something I had not been, really, since my early childhood. I learned to trust. I learned to love again. I am not the same person I was before I met God.

But I had many of the same questions some of you have. What about evolution vs. creation? How can salvation really work? Why is there evil in the world? Where is God? Who is God? Who was Jesus, really, and how can He make a difference in my life? Why should I follow a Christian lifestyle when I'm having so much fun on my own? How do you know Christianity is right? Is the Bible trustworthy?

I am analytical by nature, and I applied that nature to the Christian faith. What I found is that not only does the Christian faith make sense when you look at it from the proper perspective, but it provides answers to all those questions, and more.

And the answers are much better than "stuff happens" and "that's where faith comes in".

I've found that there are boundaries to living a Christian life, but there are very practical reasons behind the boundaries that most people don't see, and therefore cannot appreciate.

I've found that God is trustworthy. He has fulfilled every promise He has made to me so far. The most significant one has been His promise for my best life in exchange for following His lead.

As He continues to reveal His work and His character to me, I am continually motivated to know Him more. It's a snowball effect, much like any other relationship. If you meet the coolest person you've ever known, you naturally want to spend an ever increasing amount of time with that person and get to know him better and better.

I could go on for days, but I think that's basically the answer to your question. Being concise is something I'm still working on. :wink2:

Thanks again, Larry, for a great thread. And thanks to the rest of you who have opened up and responded!

[hasbeens99]

Originally posted by Fred
My father said that he was just as much a part of the family as my sister in law was and had every right to be there. With one sentence, he wiped away all my fears.

Wow. What an awesome gift! How precious that acceptance must've been (and still is) for you. That is very, VERY cool, Fred. You're a lucky man.

[jeanmarie]

Hasbeens-
I rarely post on this board - mostly lurk.
But your response to Larry's question moved me to reply.
What a testimony! God Bless You.

JM

[Patti]

Do I get a question?

[hasbeens99]

Originally posted by jeanmarie
Hasbeens-
I rarely post on this board - mostly lurk.
But your response to Larry's question moved me to reply.
What a testimony! God Bless You.

JM

Thanks, JM. He does. :D

[lex]

that is so moving! thank you so much for sharing. :mushy:

larry: this is a great thread. :)

[imking4aday]

i'll agree with the rest of yous that are saying this is a great thread...i'm really enjoying reading some of the deep stuff

keep up teh good questions larry (and the good answers everyone else)

[LarryD]

Originally posted by BearBryant
huh? You have me confused with someone else.

yes, i did -- with BAMA. i thought that timeline never made sense. that's why i asked.

i've got a couple of backups for you.

[LarryD]

Originally posted by SilverSurfer


Where's my question? :(


maybe yours should be, "why do you whine so much?"

seriously, if you haven't noticed, i'm going in order of the folks that asked -- like i asked them to. if you don't ask, you don't get a question.

[LadyJane]

I may regret this LOL, but I'll take a question when you get around to it :)

[lex]

dont you want a question, c?

larry, i want to know what you got for magnus. :(

[Superfluous_Nut]

sign me up.

[SilverSurfer]

Originally posted by LarryD



maybe yours should be, "why do you whine so much?"



That was what I was afraid of. :D

[HighPoint49er]

Originally posted by LarryD
seriously, if you haven't noticed, i'm going in order of the folks that asked -- like i asked them to. if you don't ask, you don't get a question.
I'll get in line now, like the checkout at Wal-mart, I should be out by Christmas.

[WYDD]

sure, i'll join in.

[imking4aday]

Originally posted by LarryD


if you don't ask, you don't get a question.

if you haven't gotten my request already, please take it now

[Savio]

I'm in

[Fred]

Originally posted by hasbeens99


Wow. What an awesome gift! How precious that acceptance must've been (and still is) for you. That is very, VERY cool, Fred. You're a lucky man.
Thanks and yeah- I am very lucky. At 79, he has gone from a tower of strength to a frail senior citizen. But he can still put the fear of God in us with one look.

[Fred]

Originally posted by sadic1

I loaded the Harley ......... :mushy:

[WilliamJ]

Ok, ask me anything you want :)

[VOR]

Originally posted by Fred
:mushy:

Geez Fred you're getting old right before my eyes, you've quit hunting bear and are settling for a shrimp with a harley. Can spending friday nites at the rest area parkinglot be next?

[twentybelow0]

You can ask me almost anything:D

keyword almost :)

[sadic1]

Originally posted by VOR
Geez Fred you're getting old right before my eyes, you've quit hunting bear and are settling for a shrimp with a harley. Can spending friday nites at the rest area parkinglot be next?

More disturbing than that is that this proves Fred read at least half of my post.

[VOR]

Originally posted by sadic1


More disturbing than that is that this proves Fred read at least half of my post.

you've got a problem, how many wop it guys are there at bofa, hell he can be boiling your cat in a few months.

[Fred]

Originally posted by sadic1


More disturbing than that is that this proves Fred read at least half of my post.
I never said I wouldn't grudge-fuck you. I just don't like you.

[wossa]

okay Mr. D - Fire Away.

[jbghostrat]

I want one too!

[some bitch]

Originally posted by LarryD
like midgets and albinos, red heads always attract attention. some buckle under the pressure and introvert. others, like you, try to live up to the "fiery red-head" presumption. you didn't do drugs and locked on to one guy early on, so what kind of trouble did you get into as a kid?


first off what a freaking intro larry lol ( i rank right up there with midgets and albinos:rolleyes: ). also i am sorry it took so long to get on here to answer this Q.

in life (real life) it is easy to live up to being "fiery" type i am quick and usually quite mouthy. though most times i am a big mush and as nice as pie only i try not to admit that much. i have had a hard time here on tbr because even though i am often opinionated i am a very liked(in real life) person and i found it hard to understand what i had done to people here to be so pissed. i am not really one to live up to others presumptions.

by nature i am a sexually driven person and that was about my only real release as a teen. i was what you guys would call a 'goodie-goodie' back then. only mike and i knew the amount of sex we had i wasn't one to talk about it when i was younger. as most of you already know i have been with mike since i was 15 and he is all i really know. i guess my best and worst thing was the sex though i never really got caught so i never got in trouble :D unless you call being pretty darn happily married a bad thing


damn this got long and i only wish it had as much subtance as some others here did. i never have really been in trouble larry...........i never really thought i missed much being the boring one:)

all though i am only 30 you know. i'm not dead yet ;) there is still time. you know even joking about this i think my rational side will process the outcome over and over again and choose to not get into trouble. i am not one to take risks where myself or others could get hurt. if that were the case i would have been in trouble by now.

[LLG]

still waiting.... :D

[Agent Smith]

I will take a question.

[plutosdaughter]

Wow....great thread, great idea and super great answers, I can't wait to read more. :)

[Coops Greatest Fan]

Originally posted by LarryD
what is so impoortant to you that without it life would not be worth living? (and you can't answer watching jarrod cooper or k-state football. :) )

I've kinda already talked about this a little bit when some of our fellow members have had to deal with one of their loved ones dieing or being in the process of dieing. My family is the most precious thing to me, especially my mother. She's not only my mom, but she's my best friend. She may drive me crazy sometimes, but I know she will always be there for me no matter what decisions I make in life. She enjoys a lot of the same things I do (especially football - Didn't you know I'd get football in my answer somehow!), and we enjoy spending time together, although we hardly get time together since I'm working most of the time. I know my mom is getting up there in age (she's 58) and she's not going to be around forever, so when I do have time with her, I enjoy her to the fullest. But when the time comes for her to go, I'm not sure what I will do! I know I won't go out there and do something bad, but I'm sure there will be a lot of emptiness in my life.

Thanks Larry for the question. I'm learning a lot about other members and myself as well.

[mathmajors]

Originally posted by BearBryant

huh? You have me confused with someone else.

You mean you're not a corpse?

[muc]

This is a cool idea Larry. It has made me ask myself some of the questions too. Fred, I have a lot of respect for your dad too. What a blessing. Looks like you have lots of questions to think up Larry, but I'm in and interested.

[Imonlyhuman]

Originally posted by LarryD
if you were an animal, what kind of animal would you be and why?

I would be a mountain cat. They are secretive and they mind thier own bussiness. They are strong but yet gentle with thier babies. They can be loud but they walk softly. They have soft eyes but they are full of mischief. They have sweet faces but when you see one up close, it fills you with fear. Fear of not knowing what the cat is thinking, fear of not knowing what the cat is going to do, the fear of just plain not knowing. If I was a mountain cat, I wouldnt want people to fear me, just understand me and respect me. Let me be who mother nature programmed me to be. A big beautyful cat with attitude but yet bother nobody.

[Imonlyhuman]

Larry your not into psychology are you? If you are, please dont make an appointment for me to see one lol. The last one I went to had to make an appointment for herself lol. There are lots of interesting questions and answers going on here. I didnt think there would be that many that would answer like they are. Damn I have to get to the next tbr party. I feel like I know everyone already.

[chuckrichey]

is it too late to sign up??i'll take a question!:)

[gladhatter]

If we have to ask to be asked I'm askin'.

[LarryD]

what do you like best about your life?

[LarryD]

if you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

[QueenCityHillbilly]

Hey Larry, if you can think up a good question, I'll buy you a lap dance next time you're in the QC.

[LarryD]

someone you love deeply is brutally murdered and you know who the identity of the murderer, who unfortunately is acquitted of the crime. would you seek revenge?

[LarryD]

do you feel you have much impact on the lives of people you come into contact with? can you think of someone who, over a short period of time, significantly influenced your life?

[LarryD]

would you be willing to commit perjury for a close friend? for example, might you testify that he was driving carefully when he hit a pedestrian even though he had been joking around and not paying attention?

[LarryD]

when was the last time you stole something and why haven't you stolen anything since then?

[LarryD]

a couple of kids. a dog. work from home. wife takes care of you. college graduate. you've got it all.

what's been your biggest disappointment in life? your biggest failure?

[LarryD]

ok, filmboy. how do you see "TBR: The Movie" unfolding?

[LarryD]

if you could take a one-month trip to anywhere in the world -- and money was no consideration -- where would you go and what would you do?

[LarryD]

you no-god-beleivin' yankee. :)

do you have any specific long-term goals? wht is one and how do you plan on reaching it?

[LarryD]

what is your most treasured memory?

[LarryD]

that's it for tonight's round.

get to work boys and girls. surprise me with the depth and quality of your answers.

more coming tomorrow.

[Stargazer]

Great thread, btw. I'll take a question.

[Couz]

Ask away.

[CosmikCatNip]

question please.

[mathmajors]

Originally posted by LarryD
when was the last time you stole something and why haven't you stolen anything since then?

I 'accidentally' walked out of a science convention with a little plastic thingie that connects 2 soda bottles. It simulates a whirlpool.

I appreciate you realizing that I am not a thief, and that I don't just steal stuff.

I haven't stolen anything since then because I have a job and I have a conscience.

[Fred]

Larry, I have to admit- I'm very impressed. I love reading these responses.

[barracuda]

Originally posted by LarryD
what is your most treasured memory?

I honestly don't know if I have one. I'll have to think about it and get back to you. I do have quite a few good memories but I wouldn't classify them as treasured.

[flyfisher]

Originally posted by flyfisher


:xyzwave: :xyzthumbs

ahem. I'm still standing in line.

Great reading. LLG- wow!

[Inamorata]

Originally posted by LarryD
what do you like best about your life?


Of all the questions you ask me in private you ask something so simple in public. I'm shocked!

But as I sit here thinking of my responce I find this is a very hard question to answer. Especially right now. Over the last couple of weeks I have come to realize I have nothing. Nothing that is just mine.

Not at home or at work. Since I work 3rd I share an office..I wouldn't really say it is even sharing..I come in and use someone else's office. I do have a cabnet (that I share) to keep my stuff in, so everynight I have to come in and pull all my reports and everything out to work on...re-adjust the chair and puter. Then at the end of the day put everything back.

At home (I live with my brother) all I want to do is come in have a smoke and hop on my computer. Well, I came home to find my ashtray missing, my trashcan missing, the cover to my webcam missing and my computer fucked up. Hence the installation of a lock to that room.

Dealing with all that in one day, while being very sick and PMSing of course,,,got me thinking of my life. The more I thought the sadder I got. I have no space to call my own..no safe place, no comfort zone. It may sound silly but when you don't have a simple thing as 'your own' you notice how very important that is.

I work very hard for the few things that I do have and to see that they are not respected..feels that I am not respected. That I have no rights...they can be blundered through at anytime.

I will start feeling better soon, physically and emotionaly and realize that my brother is just being a typical little brother that I need to beatup on once in awhile. :) And everything is Okay.

To make a long story short I have realized that the best and sometimes only thing I truely have in my life is my relationships.

I hold onto the love and friendship Couz has given me with all my heart. He is a truely wonderful man that I am still getting to know. To see the uncontional love and admiration his daughter has given me everyday. To see her grow and get to be a small part of that. To hold mailman's son and see the pure innocents in his eyes and the pure joy of his smile. To talk with friends ... to reach out and care. Asking them how thier day is and have that in return. To know that I at least have a very small but close couple of friends that I can vent to when angry and laugh with when happy.

When it seems I have nothing else in life those are the ones that I hold on to to get me through.

[Inamorata]

Fred, I don't have the words to let you know how inspirational your story of your father and passing of your mother is. Thank you for sharing.

[BearBryant]

Originally posted by LarryD
if you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?

Not one thing

[chuckrichey]

Originally posted by BearBryant


Not one thing


a man of many words!!!!:rolleyes:

[Fred]

Originally posted by Inamorata
Fred, I don't have the words to let you know how inspirational your story of your father and passing of your mother is. Thank you for sharing.
ty Ina

[APPLEJACK]

Originally posted by LarryD
if you could take a one-month trip to anywhere in the world -- and money was no consideration -- where would you go and what would you do?

If I had a choice I would go to the Motherland (Africa).
I know that this is not the place of choice for most people but it will benefit my wife and I the most. I have always been interested in the lifestyle, culture and beauty of Africa. I know that for the most part it is poverty stricken but that is one of the reasons I would like to go. I would want to find out what and how much is being done to ease the pain of the suffering and also how we can further contribute to the plight of easing those that are suffering.
Most would probably want to go to Rome, Paris, London, the Carribean or some romantic or exotic place but with my wife and I the place that would have the most significance and substance would be Africa.
One other reason is that I would have a greater appreciation for the country in which I live and the opportunities that I have been given. Just think I have played the greatest game of all time at the highest level possible and make no mistake about it, I am grateful for the opportunity.
We were in Venezuela one winter playing baseball and we went out among the natives and had some eye opening experiences. Can you imagine a child (maybe 7-8 years old) walking the street at 11:00 in the morning with no shoes or shirt and not in school? He could'nt afford clothing or school. My wife bought him shoes and a shirt. We also saw houses where the flooring was dirt. There was no in between there, you were either extremely rich or extremely poor in Venezuela. No middle class.
My greatest source of satisfaction is helping someone in need, whether it be monetarily, education or some other form.
I've been blessed with a beautiful wife, a beautiful daughter, loving family and an opportunity to do something career wise that most only dream about and go to places that I would never have went if it had not been for baseball.
I feel obligated to help those that are in need not only because of these things but because it is my calling. Africa is where I would want to go and learning and helping is what I would want to do. Even if it is for only one month.

[Coach Micool]

I suppose I'm ready for mine.




My question that is....

[VOR]

Yeah Larry me too.

[PantherPaul]

:huh:

[Braves]

Originally posted by APPLEJACK
[B]If I had a choice I would go to the Motherland (Africa). [B]


AJ, I understand your feelings because of your motivation, but I do have a question for you. Why do many Africans dislike African Americans and many African Americans dislike Africans? Yet, many African Americans want to go "home" . There doesn't seem to be a relationship.


Oh and Larry..I'll try one.

[APPLEJACK]

Originally posted by Braves



AJ, I understand your feelings because of your motivation, but I do have a question for you. Why do many Africans dislike African Americans and many African Americans dislike Africans? Yet, many African Americans want to go "home" . There doesn't seem to be a relationship.


Oh and Larry..I'll try one.

'SUP Braves,
How ya doing bro?

To try and answer your question I'll give you half of an answer.
I've had conversation with an African friend of mine along the lines of the question. Most Africans that come here are taken aback at the arrogance and complacency of the African Americans. The Africans feel that most African Americans are sell outs because of their ignorance of the homeland and their unwillingness to help out with matters of Africa.
Also, most Africans feel that African Americans show a superiority complex.
When it comes to Africa there is so much that I want to know. I know that millions have died from disease, famine etc... but can you or I imagine what it will be like to not know when the next meal is gonna come, or bath, or drink fresh water, even where I can use a bathroom facility, if my family, friends or neighbors are infected with a disease that i know nothing about other than it's killing thousands all around me.
Then you get the opportunity to come here and see the arrogance and ignorance of the African Americans.
Hit me back
AJ

[gutter]

Originally posted by LarryD
ok, filmboy. how do you see "TBR: The Movie" unfolding?

Well Larry, this is something I still very much want to do. I think it could be great, not just for us, but for anyone. Anyone who wants to be a part of it is welcome, but certain people on here I would really need for diversity sake. I still see it going down like this.

1. Intro about the history of the board. With an exclusive interview from Mr. D.

2. Do a couple of bios on some members.

3. Talk about how we met online, help each other, like Steve's charity, that type thing. Talk about our diversity and how the board has brought people of different backgrounds together.

4. Do a piece on the charity.

5. Also talk about negative aspects of a message board. If they are really good for people to be on all day instead of interacting directly with others.

6. Probably end it up with video from the next TBR party. NOT AT DIXIE'S this time.


I'm looking forward to doing it. Anyone who wants to be a part of it just let me know. I hope to maybe start outlining it this summer. My first screenplay should be finished by then.

[magnus]

Originally posted by lex
dont you want a question, c?

larry, i want to know what you got for magnus. :(

doesn't matter. Sure.

[Braves]

Originally posted by APPLEJACK
'SUP Braves,
How ya doing bro?

AJ- You are one of a kind. I wasn't really speaking in terms of your personal feelings about going back "home". You are unique in your helping of people, so I understood your motivation. I was just curious as to why the realtionship between the two groups is so fractured when one thinks the opposite is true.

It's good to hear from you!!!

Ahhh..basketball season has begun :)

[RSgal]

Originally posted by LarryD
would you be willing to commit perjury for a close friend? for example, might you testify that he was driving carefully when he hit a pedestrian even though he had been joking around and not paying attention?

I guess it really would depend on the circumstances, but I've never been a big fan of lying, and I'm not very good at it either. If the friend had caused injury to another person (as in the example) then I would tell the truth, or not say anything at all if I could get away with it. I'm one for accepting the consequences of my actions, and I expect my friends to do the same.

[APPLEJACK]

Originally posted by Braves


AJ- You are one of a kind. I wasn't really speaking in terms of your personal feelings about going back "home". You are unique in your helping of people, so I understood your motivation. I was just curious as to why the realtionship between the two groups is so fractured when one thinks the opposite is true.

It's good to hear from you!!!

Ahhh..basketball season has begun :)

"The Africans feel that most African Americans are sell outs because of their ignorance of the homeland and their unwillingness to help out with matters of Africa.
Also, most Africans feel that African Americans show a superiority complex. " This stems from a conversation with one of my native African friends.

This is my understanding of why Africans hate African Americans. All the other mumbo-jumbo is personal.:)

[LarryD]

and here i thought bear would have actually have something to say...

cuda -- i said "most" treasured.

i'm taking the time to choose these questions based on the person i know you to be. they don't just get cranked out.

also, i'm trying to go in order of the requests.

thanks, aj. good answer. i knew you wouldn't respond with one of the ordinary tourist destinations.

llg, i agree. it's something that i ask myself whenever i meet someone, "why is this person in my life at this particular moment?" some folks' value in my life is realized only after they have moved on.

[builder]

ok Larry....I'll let you ask me one too.

[LarryD]

i need more answers before there are more questions.

[articulatekitten]

Larry, this is an absolutely incredible thread! I am blown away by your your incisive questions; & to all who have answered so far, thank you for your directness. I'm so impressed!

[Coops Greatest Fan]

Originally posted by articulatekitten
Larry, this is an absolutely incredible thread! I am blown away by your your incisive questions; & to all who have answered so far, thank you for your directness. I'm so impressed!

I agree!! Although I know most of you guys know each other through TBR parties, Panther football, or just basic life in general, Larry has got many of us figured out!

[some bitch]

this may just be the BEST thread of all times!


LLG you have said so much in such a short post...........the depth of your emotion shown as well as fred's on this thread have been felt by so many it is incredible.

i feel proud being able to read this. you are all good people!

[Ignatowski]

Originally posted by LarryD
you no-god-beleivin' yankee. :)

do you have any specific long-term goals? wht is one and how do you plan on reaching it?

Wow...flattery will get you everywhere.

My main long-term goal right now is to straighten out my financial situation. Through my 20's i was very much a spender and not a saver, and add to that being an impulse buyer, money burnes a hole in my pocket.

When o graduated high school, i had almost $5000 saved. By the time my first semester of college was over, I think i had just over $1000 left. Doesn't sound like much of a spending spree, but consider that I lived at home, I didnt pay rent and my parents were paying for college.

I basically spent almost $4000 in 3 months and had little to show for it...but at least i had fun.

So now, after years of spending freely, I have to suck it up and start saving and be smart with my money if I hope to be able to retire before i hit 80.

[McFly41]

This is great stuff Larry! Based on some of these responses one could compile TBR's movie script.

I pride myself on leaving no question unanswered, so hit me with your best shot!

[LLG]

:bump:

[Honeygirl]

Originally posted by LarryD
someone you love deeply is brutally murdered and you know who the identity of the murderer, who unfortunately is acquitted of the crime. would you seek revenge? Larry - I was so not expecting this question! Possibly why I've taken so long to respond to it - (I've actually written three replies, but not posted them), is because I'm in a real quandary with this one.

On the one hand, I believe in the Justice system, the law and the theory behind the system of Justice. My belief system, which for me includes the ideals of karma (for want of a better word), reincarnation etc - so, essentially - in the `big picture' he will suffer his just deserts in the end. On the other hand however, there is the issue of passion, of hate, rage and anger - and frankly, - such an act against someone I love would be the biggest test of my belief system and all that I hold dear to me. Logically, my answer to this would be `no'. But I know, deep down that I have the propensity to hold onto ideals of such revenge, and that there is no expiry date on my comeback if I so choose to activate it. While I am sure I could be quite vicious and cunning in the planning of such an event, I am unsure as to wether I could indeed `pull the trigger' as such. I would hope that the logical side of my thinking would take over and stop me. I would hope, but I cannot guarentee it. There is certainly a side of me that would revel in the planning and plotting of such revenge. That side of me is quite worrisome.

There are so many issues to consider. I've seen countless families ruined by violent crime - spending the rest of their lives fighting for justice, for lawful revenge. I couldn't bare that. However, by planning my own vigilante justice - wouldn't I be doing the same thing? The planning and plotting becomes the obsession - and really, it's a no win situation. And that's the point I stopped at. I guess it's one of those things that I'll hopefully never have to face - but it's been a real brainer to think of this answer. I know that I'll hit submit and want to change my mind, but out of all my answers - this is the one that is the most truthful.

Larry - couldn't you have just asked me what my favourite colour is? :D (It's blue by the way)... :)

[muff_spelunker]

Would you sticky this thing, Larry? At least temporarily. I like reading everyone's reply, but it keeps dropping off the first page and I have to go hunting for it. I hate hunting.

[LarryD]

new questions coming todya. i'm doing research.

[HighPoint49er]

Research... are you now Dr. LarryD?

[Marielle]

I'd like a question. Shoot.

[hasbeens99]

Originally posted by Honeygirl
My belief system, which for me includes the ideals of karma (for want of a better word), reincarnation etc - so, essentially - in the `big picture' he will suffer his just deserts in the end. On the other hand however, there is the issue of passion, of hate, rage and anger - and frankly, - such an act against someone I love would be the biggest test of my belief system and all that I hold dear to me. Logically, my answer to this would be `no'. But...

HG, you and I, while we differ in our reasons why, feel very much the same on this issue. You rely on karma, I rely on the justice and vengeance of God. But in either case, complete trust comes hard, doesn't it?

The thing I've found, however, is that this particular act of trust is an enabler for forgiveness. Sort of ironic, isn't it?

[BudMan]

i want one now!!

[Slruc]

This thread is a blatant bold faced lie.

It states clearly that there is a question for everyone, when clearly there are numerous people wihtout questions.

Bah I say to thee. I bite my thumb at you sir. :bird1: :D

[WilliamJ]

Originally posted by Slruc
This thread is a blatant bold faced lie.

It states clearly that there is a question for everyone, when clearly there are numerous people wihtout questions.

Bah I say to thee. I bite my thumb at you sir. :bird1: :D piss off bitch.

[Slruc]

Originally posted by WilliamJ
piss off bitch.

Awe, did I hurt your little feelings?

[LarryD]

Originally posted by Slruc
This thread is a blatant bold faced lie.

It states clearly that there is a question for everyone, when clearly there are numerous people wihtout questions.

Bah I say to thee. I bite my thumb at you sir. :bird1: :D

yes, there are questions for everyone. it also says that you have to ask first to get one.

carry on.

[WilliamJ]

Originally posted by Slruc


Awe, did I hurt your little feelings? no fuck head...i was just telling you to piss the fuck off...you are an asshole...that's all.:)

[LarryD]

if you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not havingtold someone? why haven't you told them yet?

[LarryD]

you're mr. laid back, but you've often alluded to your having some secrets that you will not share. you do drink and apply avon regularly, so i'm assuming that there's an internal struggle with some issue.

i won't ask you about that.

instead...

what was your best experience with drugs or alcohol? your worst experience?

[LarryD]

since adolescence, in what three-year period do you feel you experienced the most personal growth and change?

[LarryD]

have you ever hated anyone? if so, why and for how long?

[LarryD]

if you were guaranted honest responses to any three questions, who would you question and what would you ask?

[LarryD]

if you were having difficulty on an important test and could safely cheat by looking at someone else's paper, would you do so?

[LarryD]

what do you strive for most in your life: accomplishment, security, love, power, excitement, knowledge, or something else?

[LarryD]

would you like to be famous? in what way?

[LarryD]

given plenty of opportunity, why haven't you met up with the other board members?

[LarryD]

you have the chance to meet someone with whom you can have the most satisfying love imaginable -- the stuff of dreams. sadly, you know that in six months the person will die. knowing the pain that would follow, would you still want to meet the person and fall in love? what if your lover would not die, but instead betray you?

[LarryD]

you discover your wonderful one-year-old child is, because of a mixup at the hospital, not yours. would you want to exhange the child to try to correct the mistake?

[LarryD]

what is your most enjoyable dream? your worst nightmare?

[LarryD]

when were you last in a fight? what caused it and who won?

[bunky]

early on in this experiment, i'm noticing, for the most part, folks that are newer to the board (sans a couple) are the ones eager to express and identify. your most recent question to brain could hold true for alot of characters here. granted this is a message board, and many folks are and should be hesitant to move into contact familarity, i often wonder why more people aren't confident(is it confidence?) enough to meet these people that we have become "addicted" to. ( obviously, i don't mean the folks many miles from here).

[LarryD]

you and a person you love deeply are placed in separate rooms with a button next to each of you. you know that you will both be killed unless one of you presses your button before 60 minutes pass; futhermore, the first to press the button will save the other person, but will immediately be killed. what do you think you would do?

[LarryD]

what makes you so great? don't list any of your perceived negative qualities and present your strengths as glowingly as if you were interviewing for a job.

[LarryD]

all for now. i eagerly await your answers, folks.

[Slruc]

Originally posted by WilliamJ
no fuck head...i was just telling you to piss the fuck off...you are an asshole...that's all.:)

I see. Well Willie, you sure have my number. :rolleyes:


Larryd - It was all in jest. My apologies.

[Patti]

Originally posted by LarryD
you have the chance to meet someone with whom you can have the most satisfying love imaginable -- the stuff of dreams. sadly, you know that in six months the person will die. knowing the pain that would follow, would you still want to meet the person and fall in love? what if your lover would not die, but instead betray you?

Larry, I am glad you said love instead of just sex. And a key point here is you also said the most satisfying love imaginable, which would have to include me knowing and trusting this person beyond question. And me knowing he loved me in the same way.

If I knew he were to die in six months the answer would be an absolute yes. I would want to spend all the time I could with him until he took his last breath with me there to hold him.

If I knew he would betray me, then the answer would be an absolute no. If I knew this, then I couldn't have the most satisfying love imaginable because the conditions I mentioned above would not exist.

Thanks for the question Larry. It made me think and ponder on situations I had never seriously thought through.

[articulatekitten]

Originally posted by LarryD
if you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not havingtold someone? why haven't you told them yet?

Wow! Kick-ass questions & answers all around . . . .
I really had to think hard about this. Having lost several people very close to me--especially in the last 3 years or so--I try very hard to make sure I let those I care for know how much they mean to me, what a difference they've made in my life. I'd definitely want to say it at least once more to every one of them, though.
But I'm surprised to find that I would most regret not telling my father in DETAIL how pleased & proud I am of how he has changed over the years. He was a horrible parent--abusive to my mother & my siblings & me. He did some severe emotional damage to us all. But he's had the guts to acknowledge his failings, accept complete responsibility for them, & really change--from the inside out. I have thanked him, but it seems important
to recognize--out loud, or in writing--the magnitude of what he's accomplished. And I suppose the reason I haven't done so yet is that I've been too focused on avoiding stirring up bad memories (for either of us) to recognize the need.
So thank you to prompting me to think about it :) I'll write to him now.

[Honeygirl]

Originally posted by hasbeens99
HG, you and I, while we differ in our reasons why, feel very much the same on this issue. You rely on karma, I rely on the justice and vengeance of God. But in either case, complete trust comes hard, doesn't it?

The thing I've found, however, is that this particular act of trust is an enabler for forgiveness. Sort of ironic, isn't it? I'm glad that you knew what I was talking about there Hasbeens, because my answer was really a hash up of three seperate answers! Yes, you and I may differ on the paths taken at a certain point, but I think we're pretty much on the same road in terms of this kind of issue. The trust issue was certainly something that I angst over and would indeed be part of the biggest test of my belief system. What if, at the end of the day - there isn't anything upstairs, and I could have strung the prick up by his bleeding toenails and let the maggots eat him - and I missed my chance! :(

[Couz]

Originally posted by Patti
If I knew he were to die in six months the answer would be an absolute yes.

So the poor bastard has to die to get you? Is that the longest you can stand to be with one person or do guys find all your faults after six months? :D

[builder]

Originally posted by Couz


So the poor bastard has to die to get you? Is that the longest you can stand to be with one person or do guys find all your faults after six months? :D

Because 6 months of total happiness would be worth the lifetime of pain of losing the one you love.

[Patti]

Originally posted by Couz


So the poor bastard has to die to get you? Is that the longest you can stand to be with one person or do guys find all your faults after six months? :D

No he does not have to die. But if he was filthy rich and would die in six months I wouldn't have to be in love either!!!!! Just call me Anna Nicole!

And about my faults, how dare you! I have no faults!!!

But seriously look at Builders post right under yours. That says it all.

My longest relationship so far has been 10 1/2 years. And the one I'm looking for is a lifetime commitment.

[builder]

Originally posted by Patti
But seriously look at Builders post right under yours. That says it all.


I learnt that from Shelby in Steel Magnolias. :)

[Patti]

Originally posted by builder


I learnt that from Shelby in Steel Magnolias. :)


Ahh Builder....... if I could just find a straight man that thought the way you do. But that is a contradiction in it's self.

[builder]

Originally posted by Patti



Ahh Builder....... if I could just find a straight man that thought the way you do

They exist. They are few and far between and not often much to look at. But they're out there. Fortunately, I got the looks too. :D


Really....there are some out there. I used to know a few. But that was a long time ago and I've given up on snagging one of them myself.

[NormanNiner]

Originally posted by LarryD
if you were guaranted honest responses to any three questions, who would you question and what would you ask?

This is one of those essay questions you see a lot on admission forms. I don't feel that there is anything in my home life that is so questionable that it would require an honest answer. My wife can't seem to not tell me what she thinks about everything, which is one of the many reasons I married her.

I suppose I would like to ask my parents a few things though.

After my separation and subsequent divorce in 2000-2001, it only took me a year and a half to get remarried. Something tells me my mom didn't approve (of the marriage being sort of soon, not who I married). While Jenn and I were dating she would make remarks about how serious we were and said to take our time and all of that. And occasionally she would bring up the ex wife just to disparage her name. She even did so at Thanksgiving dinner. My mom actually began to talk about Heidi and Jenn was mortified. It's almost like my mom and dad aren't over my divorce. The way it went down, it hurt them pretty bad. They discovered, along with me, how much of an absolute piece of garbage she was. I picked myself up and moved on, but my parents just sat at home (both retired) and stewed in it.

I discovered this year that many many years ago, my father had an affair. The only reason I know is because my sister told me after mom confided in her. I still don't know the details. I haven't brought myself to ask my sister what exactly happened. But right during the throws of my separation, my parents were in counseling about my dad's affair. The affair happened like 25+ years ago. I don't know how or why my dad decided to tell her either. Mom and dad almost told me one night while I was visiting. Mom lost it as we were talking about marriage and then dad came in and lost it too. I was like "what the hell?" I've never seen them go to pieces like that, ever. They said they had something to tell me, but I said "No. Don't tell me right now." They seemed relieved that they didn't have to. It was after that when I called my sister. Of course she knew everything. So, I guess my questions would be directed at my dad:

- Why/how did it happen?
- Why did you decide to tell mom now after so many years of her obviously not knowing?
- Do you think you will lose my respect because I was also the victim of infidelity?

I'll get these answers at some point, but I dread the conversation. I can't stand seeing my parents suffer. They are both afraid of what I'll think because of what I went through. I don't think any less of my dad, but it does suprise me.

[LarryD]

that's exactly the sort of answer i was hoping you'd give, norm. great work.

you guys are really coming through with these answers.

[Couz]

Originally posted by Patti

Just call me Anna Nicole!

And about my faults, how dare you! I have no faults!!!



Anna Nicole as she look then or as she looks now???

You have no faults? You sound like me. If I have any faults then it's probably that I'm too humble.:D

[Couz]

Originally posted by builder


Because 6 months of total happiness would be worth the lifetime of pain of losing the one you love.

Damn good post......you sappy, tender hearted slut.:)

[hasbeens99]

Wow. Awesome post, NN. Thanks... :xyzthumbs

[hasbeens99]

Originally posted by articulatekitten
But I'm surprised to find that I would most regret not telling my father in DETAIL how pleased & proud I am of how he has changed over the years. He was a horrible parent--abusive to my mother & my siblings & me. He did some severe emotional damage to us all. But he's had the guts to acknowledge his failings, accept complete responsibility for them, & really change--from the inside out.

AK, this is something I've been waiting for from my mother for over 17 years, and I don't think I'll ever get it. What a blessing, and how great it is that you showed him the grace to forgive him! AWESOME! Yes, I believe the letter you're going to write (or have already written) will be difficult, but the healing and restoration will be well worth it. Outstanding!

[hasbeens99]

Originally posted by Honeygirl
What if, at the end of the day - there isn't anything upstairs, and I could have strung the prick up by his bleeding toenails and let the maggots eat him - and I missed my chance! :(

That is the downside of the risk, isn't it? If there is no superior mechanism in place to enact true, inescapable justice and if we don't take care of it in this life, then the perpetrators get off scott free don't they?

But here's some condolence. While entertaining the idea of vengeance can be tasty, carrying it out can be a very nasty business. It scars you. It is a burden to bear, and a heavy one at that.

If I could not put my full weight in the trust I have for God's ultimate justice, I would still be carrying the hate I had in my heart and mind for my mother and grandmother to this day. But because of that trust, I was able to release it and find happiness and peace in my own life -- even though my mother is oblivious to what has happened. We have been reconciled because of my act of forgiveness, borne from my decision to trade my vengeance for God's.

The funny thing is back then, I embraced the idea of Mom facing God's judgment. Now I pray she's spared, because I can look on her with love instead of hate. But that's her decision, not mine.

[HighPoint49er]

Originally posted by LarryD
when were you last in a fight? what caused it and who won?
Gee Larry, like everyone doesn’t know here already. I’ve been in one continuous fight for the past 693 days now. And it will continue for the remainder of my life on this planet.

On October 17, 2000 I was struck with a moderate heart attack. Not that it was unexpected but everyone thinks it won’t happen to him. I think I knew what it was at the time but it wasn’t confirmed for 8 hours. Through the marvels of medicine the cardiologist was able to determine the time of it within 13 minutes.

Of course I was upset at many things: myself for not eating properly or exercising, my doctor for not being more “intimidating,” my job - a stressful time then, and yes even God for allowing that to happen to ME! Of course, I was also grateful that he had spared me too.

The pain that night in the hospital came and went. I was told they’d do an angioplasty and stent procedure the next morning because the cath lab team had worked overtime and the cardiologist would like for them to rest and be refreshed for me. The family was sent home and I was told to rest.

Rest? You can imagine the thoughts going through my head in that room. The pain grew worse within an hour so they cath lab was readied for me and my mother and wife were summoned back to High Point Regional. The staff was trying to wait as long as they could for them to see me before entering the surgical area. The wait was awful, I felt completely alone.

Alone, you may ask. Two doctors and four nurses running in and out of your room and you’re alone? These people were strangers. I felt alone because none of my family was there. My ministers were not there. I’d lost control, I am stuck on a stretcher and nothing I do can stop this madness.

Luckily the family arrived with one of our ministers at the same time before I went in. That calmed me a bit until I saw all the equipment in the cath lab. I was moved over to the table and covered by just a sheet. Panic again struck me as I was alone again in preparation of this invasive procedure. They pulled the sheet off me and the fear of being seen naked by 2 young nurses and the cardiologists was downright comical. Dr. Erdin said, “William, the entire world sees you right now and there’s nothing you can do about it.” I began to laugh and I replied, “Just abuse me while you can.” That broke the room’s tension and two blockages were opened and the pain quickly went away. I was told two weeks later this was my second heart attack, I was unaware of the first one ever occurring.

I was recovering and my wife informed me she thought she should leave after 15-1/2 years, one month to the day after the heart attack. I was totally unprepared for that, not that I thought the marriage was perfect, but I’d learned early on that the white house with the picket fence didn’t exist. That news set me back quickly.

They say heart attack victims go through severe denial and depression. This only added to the burden. I fought to keep the family together for the holidays, never mentioning it to my parents. There were good days and better days, cardiac rehab at the hospital helped seeing people older exercising circles around me. After losing control one day, I went to the hospital quite upset and they sent me to the hospital’s psychiatrist who referred me to a therapist for the depression.

She stayed for a while but informed us she was moving out on the first day of school in August, 2001.

I’d lost the battle Larry. I felt I’d let down my friends, my family and mainly the kids. I knew nothing would ever be the same again.

The stress of this is awful at times. Thank God for the support of my parents, I admit I was always jealous of her relationship with them, I was an only child and they had always treated her as the daughter they never had, up until they were told of her wanting to leave. Does she help support the kids? After all, they’re with me full time, VERY LITTLE. And then she has the absolute nerve to file for divorce and want immediate temporary and full custody of them and me pay support! I’m not complaining, her day will come next year in court and will pay later on in different ways.

It hasn’t been fun. The limitations of raising two sons are overwhelming at times. There is little time for self and then I have to worry about the heart and what will happen in the future. No, I’ve not taken care of that as I should’ve lately and I’m sure the cardiologist will let me know about it on my upcoming visit.

I’m lucky I was given another chance after two heart attacks. I am fighting a battle for my life and a battle to raise my kids, it’s ongoing and I haven’t won it for sure. Am I the loser? No, the kids are the losers. They are the ones to suffer through this, regardless of with happens to me down the road.


I’d like to thank those on this board that have been of help to me in the past year. I won’t mention names, you know who you are and I’m grateful to you.

[imking4aday]

what makes you so great? don't list any of your perceived negative qualities and present your strengths as glowingly as if you were interviewing for a job.


I was actually thinking way into this question and was writing a pretty huge answer when I finally realized what it all came down to this:

I would have to say that I am so great because I have a positive outlook on life. I am still very young (23), have a great marriage with a beautiful wife, own a house, a dog, a degree, a job that is promising, friends from all sorts of different nationalities and backgrounds to surround my self, and most importantly, my belief in God and what His future promises if we stick to his will. How many other people at my age can say all that?

But I guess the biggest influence has been by following God's word in my daily life, it has helped me to become the person I am. Fortunately, I was born and raised in a Christian household where the beliefs weren't shoved down my throat or forced upon me, but rather, I was encouraged to research and get to know God personally by the information I was able to locate. It's amazing the way you look at life when you have God to guide you along the way.

I was the first in my family to complete a four-year degree (my parents didn’t even want me to go to college). I am very athletic and competitive minded, which has not only helped in sports, but also in my life it has helped me set and reach higher goals and has also given me some great leadership traits and I have become a pretty good motivator for the people I work with and associate with.

I have gained a lot of respect from my family, friends, and co-workers, and they really look up to me. You really don't get to know this until something life-altering happens in your life. I was in a car accident in July that really scared the piss out of me. My life just seemed to be moving so fast, and I guess I was beginning to feel untouchable…until my eyes opened up and I realized I was going 80 mph into a median on I-85. After smashing my wife's car to pieces, and setting us back just about all we had saved up, I had to take a second look at my life and what I almost did. Just about all my friends, family, co-workers, etc were in tears as I told them story and how close I was to being taken from them…and just listening to what they had to say about me really made me step back and take a look at my life, and realized man, I need to slow down a bit and think some stuff over. It really touched me.

But, I guess what it all really comes down to is the golden rule "Do to others as you would expect done to you". It's amazing how things come back to you when you reach out to other people. Just being true to your friends always is so important in making it in life, being there for them when they need you, and them being there for you when you need it. And it goes beyond your friends…people in the community, your employer, etc etc. Just think "If someone was doing that to me, how would I feel?", and everything just seems to workout.

I hope this is the type of answer you were looking for…I tend to just blurt my feelings out in no particular order, so I hope it makes sense to all you guys.

Oh, did I mention I'm Canadian, love hockey and beer…now that's great!

[NormanNiner]

Originally posted by HighPoint49er
...I’d like to thank those on this board that have been of help to me in the past year. I won’t mention names, you know who you are and I’m grateful to you.

God bless you man.

[hasbeens99]

HP, I'm reeling from just reading what you've been through this past year, and continue to go through. When my wife nearly died 6 years ago, many people applauded me for sticking by her. I couldn't comprehend how I had a choice in the matter. Not that I resented it, but I just felt it was my responsibility. No, more than that -- it was part of who I had become, who she made me -- to take care of her and stand by her side, no matter what it took.

For the longest time, I could not even comprehend a husband or wife leaving the other in a time like this... to just bail. But I've heard stories like yours, and I must accept it does happen.


I say this not to applaud myself -- far from it. But to say to you that I join the other members of TBR in trying to replenish the support your wife has taken from you in this awesomely difficult time of your life. If you'd like another friend, you've got one in me. May God continue to strengthen and encourage you.

[NinerAdvocate]

Oh what the hell...

I'm in Larry, if you're still up to it. Curiousity killed the cat once again.

[HighPoint49er]

Couldn't stand the pressure NA?

[flyfisher]

Originally posted by LarryD
since adolescence, in what three-year period do you feel you experienced the most personal growth and change?

I have looked at this question all day and I have thought about the three phases in life. As the riddle goes: "What crawls on all fours in the morning, walks on two legs in the afternoon and three legs at night"? The child, the man and then the old. - something like that.

Nothing was outstanding in my childhood. Just a lucky kid growing up on the Jersey Shore. I thought about how I met my wife and the birth of our kids and the move to NC with the company but that may be challenging and wonderful, it hasn't been an experience that many of us has not gone through without help from others that had fallen in love, had kids and found new friends in a new town. I mean there has always been support and advice.

The past three years have been the greatest challenge and need for change. Too many bad things have occur too closely together while requiring me to mange a company, family and personal stability. My dad retires, I fire my brother, Nancy's dad dies, my dad has a stroke-twice, Nancy's snaps her akelies(sp) tendon, best friend died, September11,daughter gets her driving license and I feel like I've been dropped in the middle of Moscow. These experiances have not changed me, really, just made me grow more to BE me. People rely upon me to lead, support, protect, love and give comfort. However, I am more sensitive to these needs by others as well as my own needs. I now make time for these needs. I needed to hear others needs and support badly enough so I got involved with the messege board. Thanks for the laughs.
I can handle a lot of stuff now. My hair is getting gray but that is the least of worries. My company is doing well. My family is closer now than ever ( except for the brother thing) and I REALLY like what I do. I never felt needed or needing like this before and that is a good thing.

OK! Who wants to play golf?

[Braves]

HP, I have always admired the way you continue to battle through your struggles.You have been knocked down to all fours. Most people would lay there defeated, feeling sorry for themselves..not you! That's what I admire about you.

It's also why I know you will achieve whatever goals you have set personally.

[wossa]

what a great thread with unbelievable responses.

Larry in case you missed it I'm ready for the "big question" ;)

[Braves]

Originally posted by imking4aday
I would have to say that I am so great because I have a positive outlook on life.

King, not to sound condescending, but I love to read stories from younger guys about their dreams and experiences, knowing that the curveballs they face will determine how they go through life.

You have mentioned one of the keystones of life; "positive outlook". It is your ability to keep that mindset when facing those curveballs that will be interesting in your next 20 years. I don't like to say good luck, so I will say good life!

I must say, that you have an excellent start

[HighPoint49er]

Originally posted by Braves
HP, I have always admired the way you continue to battle through your struggles.You have been knocked down to all fours. Most people would lay there defeated, feeling sorry for themselves..not you! That's what I admire about you.

It's also why I know you will achieve whatever goals you have set personally.

Thanks NN, hasbeen & Braves. I have my moments though. It's quite difficult going to any functions where couples or entire families are involved. Some people can't understand.

[LarryD]

Originally posted by Wossa
what a great thread with unbelievable responses.

Larry in case you missed it I'm ready for the "big question" ;)

i'm continually amazed by the folks here.

wossa, not sure where you fall on the hit list, but you've got to be coming up. i'm just trying to knock 'em down in order.

[Braves]

Originally posted by HighPoint49er
It's quite difficult going to any functions where couples or entire families are involved.

Yeah..I'm sure that's true. It's unfortunate that couples and entire families are becoming minorities though.

Would anybody else agree that one of the major reasons for broken families is...SELFISHNESS

[Superfluous_Nut]

Originally posted by HighPoint49er
I was recovering and my wife informed me she thought she should leave after 15-1/2 years, one month to the day after the heart attack. I was totally unprepared for that, not that I thought the marriage was perfect, but I’d learned early on that the white house with the picket fence didn’t exist. That news set me back quickly.


That is the most fucked up thing I've read in a while.

[dig-it]

Originally posted by LarryD
if you were having difficulty on an important test and could safely cheat by looking at someone else's paper, would you do so?

Thanks LD, it depends on how important the test is to me. I was a design student at a tech school and classes ranging from statics to machine shop. They were wanting the well rounded curriculum and I was more interested in just the designing classes. I(and the whole class) would share answers in machine shop, it just wasn`t that important to me. Where as with the design classes, I relished the challenge and took it very personal. My grades were just average in the design classes and they kept me off the deans list, but that was the best way for it to sink in for me.

[hasbeens99]

Originally posted by HighPoint49er
I have my moments though.

Of course, HP. We all do. My wife certainly has. It is not a sign of weakness, but a testament to strength that you continue and strive to make the best of your life. You live.

It's quite difficult going to any functions where couples or entire families are involved. Some people can't understand.

I definitely understand. For a long time after Leslie was rendered sterile, it was hard for her to be around all our friends who seemed to be popping out kids like it was going out of style. They all wanted to include her, but it was very hard. It was a constant reminder of a dream lost. It was the same for me, too, but not to that extent. I understand that pain. I pray it will subside for you in time.

[hasbeens99]

Originally posted by Braves
Would anybody else agree that one of the major reasons for broken families is...SELFISHNESS

I'd have to say that's one of those statements that is true, but harsh. And it's harshness is amplified by it's truth.

[Superfluous_Nut]

Originally posted by LarryD
what is your most enjoyable dream? your worst nightmare?


this one has taken me a bit of time to sort out. i gave up dreaming a long time ago -- not for any real negative reason or anything, but rather to live in the present and not measure myself by what might be. so my most enjoyable dream, i suppose, is being a comfortable, relaxed, engaged father and husband.

i love creating things and i think the ultimate in creation is a child. i avoid responsibility whenever i can -- mainly because i take it so seriously. but this is a responsibility i'm looking forward to. i want so much for my kids. i've been both lucky and unlucky in life, but as it stands, i feel i'm in a great position to start a family.

my brother died quite some time ago and my father some years before him. my dad had no brothers, so i'm the last male bearing my family's name (i'm sure there are some others somewhere). i don't want to be a dead end on a family tree.

my dream is answering my (future) kid's endless mundane questions, taking him/her to the park, and generally being there when i'm needed.


this leads me to my worst nightmare (which was easier to nail down than my most enjoyable dream). my nightmare would be to have a child that is handicapped (for lack of a better word).

i don't know how i would deal with something like that, and i'm affraid of what my reaction might be. i'm a bit of a perfectionist. i'm hypercritical. i don't know if i'd be able to handle the burden and i know i wouldn't like what that would say about me.


so as much as i look forward to what a child might reveal about my character, i'm also fearful about what a child might reveal about my character.

[builder]

Originally posted by Couz


Damn good post......you sappy, tender hearted slut.:)

Thank you Couz. I do have a heart. And it only took getting broken once to know that love wasn't for me.

[hasbeens99]

Originally posted by Superfluous_Nut
my nightmare would be to have a child that is handicapped (for lack of a better word).

i don't know how i would deal with something like that, and i'm affraid of what my reaction might be. i'm a bit of a perfectionist. i'm hypercritical. i don't know if i'd be able to handle the burden and i know i wouldn't like what that would say about me.

so as much as i look forward to what a child might reveal about my character, i'm also fearful about what a child might reveal about my character.

Nut, we are very similar in our perfectionism. I am my own worst critic and tend to hold myself to a much higher standard than others do, as I'm sure you do.

I, too, am afraid of having a special needs child, but not for that reason. My reason is selfish in that I just don't want the burden. I have been a caregiver, and I'm a good one. But the pain is a heavy burden to bear, especially over a long period of time.

I also have a fear that my child(ren) will have to fight the same character battles I have, and do. I so want the pattern of character flaws that run so rampantly in my family to stop with me. I truly want my kids to have a clean slate to work with, or at least as clean as humanly possible.

We are both looking forward to seeing our strengths and talents borne in our future children, and we are both afraid that our weaknesses will be borne in them as well. It's a scary thing, being a father, but it's a responsibility that I still look forward to someday, as I'm sure do you.

[SilverSurfer]

Originally posted by LarryD
you're mr. laid back, but you've often alluded to your having some secrets that you will not share. you do drink and apply avon regularly, so i'm assuming that there's an internal struggle with some issue.

i won't ask you about that.

instead...

what was your best experience with drugs or alcohol? your worst experience?

WOW. After reading through all these questions and responses and almost crying reading some of them I'm a little humbled. Great answers by everybody.

I can't believe I didn't get a question about porn. :confused: Of course, that was what you probably expected me to expect, which is why you didn't ask it. Not really anything to tell there anyhow. As far as the secrets go, everybody has a few of those. ;) Also, I don't want everybody to think I'm a drug addict or anything, the only thing I do now is take a toke everyonce in a while and drink beer.

What qualifies as a "best experience" with alcohol or drugs? I'm not sure what you're asking, but I'll assume by "best" experience you mean the best time I had while I was under the influence. Of course I don't think I've ever been doing drugs without drinking also, but I'll give the best examples I have. I think I know what you mean by worst experiences.

Best time doing drugs, Topsail Beach, July 1986, week of the 4th and the week after. Psilocybin mushrooms and smoking reefer. Laid back (more so than usual) and happy all 2 weeks I was there, just started dating a new girlfriend, had a new car, went fishing in the boat every day, drinking beer, getting laid every night, I felt like Jimmy Buffett. You posted the pic from that week when we first did the board pics thing. (this one)

http://www.thisboardrocks.com/forum/attachment.php?s=&postid=2952


Best time just drinking beer? That's a tough one. I've never been much of a liquor drinker. I'd say the best time was my honeymoon in Vegas, 1994. I love to gamble, and I was in heaven. Cheap(but good) food, sex, gambling, and beer (NO DRUGS!). We won and lost several thousand dollars every day. Ended up breaking even. If I ever flew anywhere again, it'd be Vegas. 2nd best would have to be the Panthers/Cowboys playoff game in 1996. What a blast.

Worst time doing drugs was in 1989. I was at the beach this time also, and ran into a guy at one of the bars shooting pool who asked me if my nose itched. I never was much into coke, but I had done it a few times in college, and since I had had a few beers, I said, yeah, it's itching like hell. He gave me a film container and a hundred dollar bill and told me to go in the bathroom. I went in, and the whole damn thing was full of coke. I
stuck my nose in and snorted up all I could take. It could have been Comet for all I knew but I was drinking so I trusted the guy. Went back out and 10 minutes later I was flying. Never been so high. Anyway, I felt great at the time, but after a few more snorts, me and my buddy that was with me asked him and his girlfriend if they wanted to come back to our place. We proceeded to spend about $500.00 and stayed up all night long. About 6:30 in the morning, I started feeling funny. We had run out, and I was coming down. Or so I thought. about 20 minutes later, I started having seizures and since everybody else with me was so fucked up, nobody knew what to do. So they gave me liquid demerol this guy had. Luckily, it worked, I'm surprised it didn't kill me with all the coke in my system, but they only gave me a little. After about an hour I wasn't having seizures anymore, but I felt like I couldn't breathe. I finally went to sleep, and when I woke up my heart felt like a sore muscle after lifting too many weights. Felt like that for about a week. Needless to say, that was my LAST time snorting anything. Had it offered to me a few times since and no way.

Worst time drinking was in 1977. Still remember this like yesterday. I was 17 years old, just under legal drinking age at that time and was out driving around with a buddy in Winston-Salem. We were drinking Schlitz Malt Liquor. Both of
us had drank about a 6 pack and we were wasted. He was driving down every road doing about 90 miles per hour. Being young, drunk, and stupid, I thought it was funny. We were going down this road and the speed limit was 45. We were in a freaking shopping center area and he was still driving over 80 miles an hour about 8:30 in the evening. This guy
pulled right out in front of us probably not more than 20 feet and we slammed him broadside. I don't know if we even had time to hit the brakes. I'm not sure what happened next, I got knocked unconscious, but I remember waking up with my buddy yelling at me to get out of the car, and facing the opposite direction we were going when we hit the guy. His car was mangled beyond recognition, I barely remember getting out and walking to a phone. For some reason, the police got there and I guess my buddy never told them anybody was with him, I called a girl I knew, she came and got me, we saw him leaving in the police car, and them trying to get the guy he hit out of
the crushed car to put him in the ambulance.

The guy ended up suing my friend's parents insurance company for several hundred thousand dollars, and I think he is probably a cripple for life, if he's still alive. I know I wasn't driving but I didn't do anything to stop my buddy from drinking and driving and speeding so I've always felt partially responsible for it. His
attorneys tried to subpoena me several times but my friends parents lawyers kept putting it off and the insurance company ended up settling out of court. Anyway, it still haunts me and I always try to have a designated driver these days or not have far to go and I NEVER speed if I've been drinking at all. That was probably my worst time drinking.

That's all I got. Not as deep as some of the other ones, but hope it answered your question(s).

[some bitch]

larry and al of you i am not sure how you all feel, but this is about the proudest i have EVER felt being a member of this board.


:sun:

i am for the most part speechless we really do ALL need to get together for something this spring. this board is cool, but it is YOU PEOPLE who ROCK:mushy:

[LarryD]

Originally posted by SilverSurfer
That's all I got. Not as deep as some of the other ones, but hope it answered your question(s).

don't sell yourself short, surfer. your response is as good as any. thank you very much for sharing.

[WYDD]

Originally posted by LarryD
you and a person you love deeply are placed in separate rooms with a button next to each of you. you know that you will both be killed unless one of you presses your button before 60 minutes pass; futhermore, the first to press the button will save the other person, but will immediately be killed. what do you think you would do?

I'd press the button as soon as i could. Living and knowing that someone i love died because i couldn't save them would be bad enough. The fact that i could directly save them by ending it for myself would make it a pretty easy decision for me.

[The Brain]

Originally posted by LarryD
given plenty of opportunity, why haven't you met up with the other board members? excellent questin and a hard one to answer... while the FIRST get together I was prevented by my car being damaged I PROBABLY could have made it to the last one... I have numerous regrets for not going... I WANT to meet everyone, but at the same time I don't... this has always been my escape from the "real" world... and I guess I fear that by meeting everyone it loses its ability to be a seperate entity from the real world... I think if I end up meeting one or two people outside of a group gathering it'd be easier to join in as a group... that's why I'm always hoping to see someone at a Panther game or while I'm shopping in Charlotte... given time I'm sure I'll be able to join in.

[TW1GGY]

Originally posted by LarryD
would you like to be famous? in what way?

I would love to be famous and in a band.. It has to be amazing to stand infront of 30,000 screaming fans wanting to hear your music!! The only draw back I see is life on the road. It has to suck... Too much down time and knowing that some crowds have the possibilty of hating you.. A rock star seems like a cool life to have.. Reckless, Hard core and balls out.. Hell yeah!!!