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Southern_Yankee
03-29-05, 04:45 PM
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If anyone is unfortunate enough to have a loved one suffer a TBI due to a car wreck or any other circumstance and you want/need to talk to someone...drop me a line.
My wife was almost killed 12/8/01 when broad sided by a delivery truck. She was in a coma for 8 days and ultimately spent 6 weeks in the hospital and Charlotte Institute of Rehab. There was a point in time where she was not able to match colored pairs of socks together. I saw a lot of ruined lives in that place and completely understand the heartache family members go through when something like this happens. She had a tracheotomy, feeding tube, a net bed that prevented her from getting out of it...etc. I had a lot of tough decsisions to make regarding her medical treatment and had to obtain guardianship over her to manage her finances while she was not able...not to mention dealing with her parents.
Miraculously...today she is once again totally independent. She is driving her own car to her own destinations, working part time handling her own finances and I continue to see improvements...3 1/2 yrs after the wreck. I would bet that if you met her on the street you wouldnt know she ever went through any of this.
Im sharing this for others who may have to deal with something like this. There is not a lot of support out there...at least not readily available in a time of crisis...and I would be happy to share more of what I've gone through with others if they would like to know.
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plutosgirl
03-29-05, 08:32 PM
Sorry to hear about that Yankee. Thanks for taking the time to offer your support.
I have a really good friend who had a wreck in high school and was in a coma. She had to re learn everything, how to walk, talk, write...everything.
I didnt know it until she told me a couple of years ago, I could never tell before. Again, thanks for sharing.
Honeygirl
03-30-05, 01:30 AM
That was a really amazing post SY and thanks for sharing it. I remember in an earlier thread, reading what you went through with her accident - and honestly, it's a testament to you that you stuck by her through her recovery and rehabilitation. Many partners / husbands / wives do not. It's never easy becoming the primary caregiver to someone you love - I grew up being one to my sister, who was handicapt. There is little support for those in our situation - there are few who know what a struggle it can be. I'm glad she is doing so well SY - keep on rockin' ;).
Southern_Yankee
03-30-05, 07:43 AM
When life throws you lemmons...make lemonade...the non-alcoholic kind. To prevent me from going totally balistic when all of this happened...I swore off of alcohol. Six months went by before I had a drink. Once things calmed down...I was able to begin to live again for me. There are many unexpected curves in this road called life...please buckle up.
you and your wife have a living will because of that? You could have very easily been a shiavo case...or whatever her name is.
you and your wife have a living will because of that? You could have very easily been a shiavo case...or whatever her name is.
doesn't matter...there were no accidents involving a delivery truck with serous injury on 12/8/01 per meck police records.
Southern_Yankee
03-30-05, 10:01 AM
doesn't matter...there were no accidents involving a delivery truck with serous injury on 12/8/01 per meck police records.
Oh yeah...I just made all this up because I had nothing better to do???
You're a fucking useless jackass!!!
Southern_Yankee
03-30-05, 10:06 AM
you and your wife have a living will because of that? You could have very easily been a shiavo case...or whatever her name is.
yes. this case would have never come to a fiasco like shiavo. i woulda walked away and let her parents/family care for her. that decison to leave or not was a tough one. it's kinda hard to divorce someone you have custody over.
Oh yeah...I just made all this up because I had nothing better to do???
You're a fucking useless jackass!!!
you spend a lot of time making up girlfriends. this doesn't seem to be a stretch for you.
if it is true, then remind me to kick your ass if I ever meet for being such a dipshit husband.
Southern_Yankee
03-30-05, 10:24 AM
then remind me to kick your ass if I ever meet for being such a dipshit husband.
I look foreword to it
vpkozel
03-30-05, 10:25 AM
yes. this case would have never come to a fiasco like shiavo. i woulda walked away and let her parents/family care for her. that decison to leave or not was a tough one. it's kinda hard to divorce someone you have custody over.
I honestly do not understand how you could walk away in a situation like that.
Southern_Yankee
03-30-05, 10:25 AM
I honestly do not understand how you could walk away in a situation like that.me neither...that's why I didnt. but if it came to a point where she was going to be like Terri...i woulda walked. i have a life too.
vpkozel
03-30-05, 10:26 AM
me neither...that's why I didnt.
But you said that you would have and let the parents take over. That's what I meant.
Southern_Yankee
03-30-05, 10:31 AM
But you said that you would have and let the parents take over. That's what I meant.I edited...
If she were going to be in a vegetative state like Terri...I would have had to go. I was 31 when that happened and would not have allowed myself to be burdened down like that. No one should. I/we were living like a 70 year old's with doctor after doctor and prescription after prescription.
Luckily no more doctors and NO MORE MEDS.
It's weird how inlaws react. Her dad wanted to blame me for this in the worst way...I could feel it. He was very up in our business and finances and questioning me on everything. I took him to a meeting with my attorney as I was trying to get guardianship...I had nothing to hide. This guy was such an asshole that my atty. told him he would no longer answer his questions and if he wanted legal representation he should seek it. I had to open up my entire life to anyone that had "interest" in my wife's well being which included previous years tax returns, our debt etc. Not once did he ever call me man-to-man and ask ME how I was doing...neither did her brother. Her mom was pretty cool...but she lived with us and wanted to stay.
Needless to say...her dad is not too welcome in MY house.
vpkozel
03-30-05, 10:37 AM
I edited...
If she were going to be in a vegetative state like Terri...I would have had to go. I was 31 when that happened and would not have allowed myself to be burdened down like that. No one should. I/we were living like a 70 year old's with doctor after doctor and prescription after prescription.
Luckily no more doctors and NO MORE MEDS.
I'm not trying to say it was an easy situation. I'm just saying that if I were in that case I do not think that I would not let anyone take over her care. I'm not judging you. Just offering my opinion.
Southern_Yankee
03-30-05, 10:42 AM
I'm not trying to say it was an easy situation. I'm just saying that if I were in that case I do not think that I would not let anyone take over her care. I'm not judging you. Just offering my opinion.
I understand and no offense taken. It's a call you pray to God every night you dont have to make. I guess children and other circumstances would weigh in and no two situations are the same....just like no two brain injuries are the same. Being a caregiver, like that, is a 24/7/365 job and is mentally and physically exhausting.
doesn't matter...there were no accidents involving a delivery truck with serous injury on 12/8/01 per meck police records.
Can you check Spartanburg Co SC for boating accidents on 7-4-92? Just curious.
here you go yank. which one was it?
http://accident.ci.charlotte.nc.us/index.htm
slydevl
03-30-05, 11:43 AM
"Accident reports are available at this site for 1 year after the incident.
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"Accident reports are available at this site for 1 year after the incident.
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What a dumbass.:thud:
yeah, well they've got about 80 accidents on 12/8/01. none of them involve a delivery truck
Southern_Yankee
03-30-05, 03:10 PM
yeah, well they've got about 80 accidents on 12/8/01. none of them involve a delivery truck
It didnt happen on 485 so......
DONT FUCKING WORRY ABOUT IT !!!!
yeah, well they've got about 80 accidents on 12/8/01. none of them involve a delivery truck
And did he mention Mecklenberg Co.? :wtf23: It could happened in Catawaba Co. for all you know.
it never happened. lala land doesn't keep accident reports.
it never happened. lala land doesn't keep accident reports.
Boy, your an ass.
it is "you're," dumbass.
it never happened. i'll beleive it when I see proof.
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